May 28, 2020

Valentines Day…REALLY, it is just another day…

OK all, I know what you are thinking, this is some single lonely gal who hates Valentines Day because she is single YET again for this special day.


Let me start by saying…Valentines is JUST another day, just like all the other 365 days in the year. It’s just another “Hallmark” holiday (ya know, like the infamous “Sweetest Day”, yes there is one of those in October). Though most of this post is FEMALE orientated, it goes for the guys too ladies!!

Here is JUST MY OPINION (everyone is allowed to theirs) ~

As sweet as it is to be lavished with gifts ~


A sweet card (if it fits, not just picked up last minute in the “OH SHIT, I FORGOT!!),but here is what’s better…make a card…personalize it…the simplest things that come from the heart FAR OUT WEIGHS any pricey HALLMARK card!


A box of chocolates, though enduring….ummm have you not noticed us eating healthier everyday to stay in shape, or all the ridiculous amount of time at the gym??? Do you really want to be stuck answering, “Do I look fat in these jeans?” Careful of your answer…your chocolates are to blame!!!


Jewelry, though very romantic (and costly) ~  do you know the difference of gold, white gold, sterling silver, tungsten, titanium, platinum?? How about our birth stone? Do we even like our birth stone color? Do we EVEN wear jewelry, and if we do, do you ever see us changing it up at all?


Flowers – yes it is the thought that counts (but Publix, really?) ~ I am not one for flowers, never have been. Probably because the most flowers I ever received was in the hospital. My first roses were there. Did I mention, I don’t like roses…my favorite flowers are baby carnations. Wanna know why?? Because they last the longest! I don’t understand buying flowers that die in a week. Laying in a hospital bed with tons of flowers around me (that give me a headache, no less) I watch as each type die…the ones that endured the longest…baby carnations!

Dinner ~ don’t we do this often…why not change it up…take me to the park and lets have a picnic, lets go to the beach and do the same…we can do dinner anytime…or how about this, EVEN better, why not either you cook for me or we cook together!


Another opinion of mine (my opinion…lol) ~

I look at it like this, if it takes you a NATIONAL HOLIDAY to confess your love to the one you are with, then maybe the one you are with needs to find someone else because apparently you didn’t get the memo…you should cherish the person you are with EVERYDAY.  You get 365 days a year to show your love, appreciation, respect, loyalty, faithfulness, trust, joy, laughter with this person! What makes you think, he or she, wants to only see it on Valentines, or their birthday, or anniversary? I am not saying that you have to go all out all the time…it’s the little things…doing something around the house for them (without them asking), leaving a sweet little note somewhere that they will eventually find it, and you walk by them let them know you know they are there (a touch of the back, quick kiss on the cheek, hell even a butt grab!). If you have kids, why don’t you take over for awhile so that the other can get a breather (single parents NEVER get this opportunity). Even the most simple THANK YOU goes a long way!!

Then I hear this “There are just SOME men out there who can’t express their feelings!”…OK REALLY!! You really want me to go there…OK, I WILL!!!

If you can’t EXPRESS your feelings by now….YOU ARE NOT A MAN!!! Grow up!! You seem to have no problem expressing your feelings when YOU NEED or WANT SOMETHING (or during your favorite sports season when your team is losing)! Don’t play that card, it’s over used, and the Joker on the card is obsolete due to it being played to often!! You might not be able to put into words what you are feeling, but figure out how you express you. You didn’t get with the woman you are with by STRICTLY BEING SILENT!!  Trust me!!!

OK, now to why this is such a big enough deal for me to write a blog about it…MY DAD!! My dad, to this day, shows in some way, shape or form…that HE UNCONDITIONALLY LOVES MY MOM! I believe he wakes up every morning wondering what he could do today to make her life just a little bit easier for that day. That is TRUE LOVE! I have the most beautiful example of true love right in front of me…are they perfect? No, Is their marriage perfect? No…but through all the obstacles, trials, and mundane everyday stuff…at the end of the day, my mom can go to sleep knowing my dad is still IN love with her after 41 years!

Now to the personal side of this….
I have yet to have an amazing guy do all the “simple” things for me. Do I believe that he is out there, of course, but am I sitting around eating Bonbon’s waiting for him to show up? NO! You see, my thoughts of Valentines Day were tarnished at the young age of 15. The boy I was just dating, took me out to the drive in movies (Wayne’s World…yep I will NEVER like this movie)…this where I literally had to FIGHT for my self respect, my dignity and  most of all, my virginity. I won, he lost badly! Did this event tarnish my outlook on Valentines Day? It did for awhile, but the more and more I saw different couples in my life express their love for one another…I realized it is NOT Valentines day that bothers me…it is the LACK of respect given to the ONES we love (male and female) on a daily basis that bothers me…ONE DAY DOES NOT MAKE UP FOR A YEAR!


  1. Dawn Indellicati says

    Love it, I completly agree with you on this. I don’t need a Hallmark holiday to know my honey loves me. He shows me daily by the way he treats me or the simple things that we take for granted every day that he does for me and the kids. Love ya mama, I think we as friends even know that without having to say it. Lol!!!